They’ll Blame You…
Back in September I wrote about Chores For Teens, a response really to some of my friends who have the pleasure of trying to teach 17 and 18 year olds how to sort laundry, cook, clean…you know…the basics.
Recently I received a link in my email (gratefully) for the Definitive Guide to Getting Children to Help with the Chores. I highly recommend checking this post out because it has some great information in there…only some of which I’ll go ahead and share with you.
There are certain benefits for children when they learn how to do things for themselves, such as they are learning life skills, they are learning what responsibility is all about, they are learning about discipline, and they are developing a sense of accomplishment, to name a few. Unfortunately, children really just don’t want to reap the rewards from these benefits…until they’re 18 and blame you for not teaching them when they were younger.
There are many reasons why children don’t like to do chores and the excuses are endless! Here are only a couple…
Excuse: “But my friends don’t have to do chores.”
My Response: “Well, it’s a good thing I’m your mom and not your friends mom, isn’t it?”
Excuse: “These chores are boring.”
My Response: “If they’re so boring, then I’ll really give you something boring to do…have you ever scrubbed granite tiles with a toothbrush?” (By the way,my kids don’t use this one anymore because they’re afraid of what else I’ll find for them to do).
The strategies for getting children to help out with chores on this post are great, though! Some are more for smaller children, such as making a game of cleaning up, or singing a clean up song, but providing rewards, setting a time limit, and vary the chores are great ideas for kids of any age.
My house consists of static chores (a chore one person has all of the time) and rotating chores (chores that the kids rotate once a week). Sometimes we have to make adjustments to who is doing what for one weird reason or another, but it usually works out in the end. At the end of the day, though, all of my kids (from my 15 year old down to my 8 year old) know how to cook, clean, pick up after themselves, and take care of the house.