Dating After Having Children – A Must
Having children is a huge responsibility that requires parents to compromise on what they want to have or do, requires parents to think of their children’s needs and wants before their own, and requires parents to give up (a lot), such as sleep. But, many parents (certainly not all) also give up their date nights with their spouse to tend to children’s activities, needs, and wants. Maybe the budget is just too tight, or it’s too much work to try to get a babysitter, or maybe they are just too tired to go out.
I have found that it is absolutely imperative for parents to continue going out on dates. If you think about it, when young adults start dating they build their relationship through this time spent together. They do things together. They talk more because they are with each other. They bond with each other. They have new experiences that help define their relationship and who they are together and as individuals. Many couples, when they become parents, make a decision that their children come before their dates and spending time together (away from the children). However, going on dates will encourage a healthier relationship, will draw the couple together again, and will give them a break from their children and the everyday stresses of life for a bit.
My husband and I are approaching our 10 year wedding anniversary this year. We don’t get to do a weekly date night, like we would like, but we do get out when we get the chance. We also don’t always have money for a fancy, extravagant date night, but we make due with what we have. We have also noticed that when we do get to go out on a date we reconnect, we talk, we laugh, we bond, and we feel so much closer than when we don’t.
Here are a few date ideas that we’ve done. Some cost more than others, but we’ve had a wonderful time with all of them.
- Dinner (we like to try new places that we haven’t been to before)
- Walk on the beach (other than paying for parking…this is FREE)
- Bicycle ride on the beach (absolutely beautiful)
- Motorcycle ride (what a wonderful way to spend a sunny and warm afternoon!)
- Walk around the block (when we don’t have a whole lot of time, or money)
- Go out for breakfast / brunch
- Amusement parks
- Window shopping at the mall
- Stop into a local bar and see a local band play
- Go on a search for a new motorcycle dealer / attire (okay, this one really is for riders, but still fun!)
- Play pool
These are just a few of the things my husband and I have done for our dates. We now go out as often as possible…even doing laundry at a laundry mat can be considered a date! The point is to just get out, away from the kids, and have some fun – together!
Do you have any cool date ideas that you’ve tried (and were successful with)? Please leave me a comment and let me know.