My family is quite informal when we entertain guests. I’d much rather host a barbeque than a fancy dinner or cocktail party (this includes events I go to). As a matter of fact, when my husband and I got married we hosted a barbeque at our house for the reception the following day. Is this a bad thing? I guess it is a matter of opinion. I, for the most part, grew up in a small town where formal gatherings are rare. I became accustomed to the more informal party life rather than the fancy dresses, multiple types of silverware, etc. However, I can mingle at the fancier parties just as well, but I’d prefer jeans and tennis shoes.
I figured that not everyone goes for the jeans and tennis shoes approach for all events, so here is some holiday dinnerware etiquette for those of you who aren’t quite sure what fork to use or where to set your wine glass down at.
Fork Placement: on the left side of the plate, starting from the outside working inward are: the salad fork, the dinner fork, and the desert fork. If there are only two forks, then it is just the salad fork and the dinner fork. The desert fork is sometimes brought out just before the dinner course is served. On the right side of the plate, starting from the outside working inward are: soup spoon, teaspoon, and dinner knife (with the blade facing the plate).
Bread Plate: the bread plate will be sitting to the upper left of your plate with the butter knife (spreader) laid diagonally and the handle of the knife to the right.
Beverage Ware: beverage ware will be sitting to the upper right of your plate. If wine is served, then the wine glass will be to the right of the water glass.
Napkin: the napkin, usually cloth, will either be folded on your plate if soup is not being served, or it will be placed to the left of your salad fork.
Do you have a trick for remembering which fork is which?